It’s been heart breaking to witness woman after woman come forward with stories about their encounters with Hollywood mogul Harvey Weinstein.
The op-ed in the The New York Times by actress Lupita Nyong’o was quite moving. She recounts her interactions that are revealing and similar to some of the stories other women have shared. One account that stands out in particular. She writes:
Harvey arrived and the assistant immediately disappeared. We ordered drinks and starters. Again he was offended by my nonalcoholic beverage choice but he didn’t fight me on it as hard. Before the starters arrived, he announced: “Let’s cut to the chase. I have a private room upstairs where we can have the rest of our meal.” I was stunned. I told him I preferred to eat in the restaurant. He told me not to be so naïve. If I wanted to be an actress, then I had to be willing to do this sort of thing. He said he had dated Famous Actress X and Y and look where that had gotten them.
I was silent for a while before I mustered up the courage to politely decline his offer. “You have no idea what you are passing up,” he said. “With all due respect, I would not be able to sleep at night if I did what you are asking, so I must pass,” I replied.
His whole demeanor changed at that point. “Then I guess we are two ships passing in the night.” I had never heard that saying before, so I remember asking him what it meant. “It means just that,” he said. “We are two ships going in two different directions.”
“Yes, I guess we are.”
“So we are done here,” he said. “You can leave.”
She said she didn’t see him again until the premiere of her first feature film 12 Years a Slave. At an after party she says he couldn’t believe how fast she had gotten where she was and that he was ashamed of his actions in the past and promised to respect her moving forward. “I said thank you and left it at that. But I made a quiet promise to myself to never ever work with Harvey Weinstein.” And, she didn’t, even though he came back with movie offers.